Skirts

Today I thought I would write about why I choose to wear skirts. It has been a little over a year now that I have been wearing skirts full time. I know our friends and family have a lot of questions about why we wear skirts all the time but don't blatantly come out and ask. I know because when we visit we get those looks. :) Most of them already think we are crazy for homeschooling our children!

About a year and a half ago as we were growing in our faith with The Lord I had read several places in the bible where it talked about being modest and of course there is the famous aurgument on Deuteronomy 22:5 " The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman's garment; for all that do so are abomination unto The Lord thy God." Do I believe this applies to us today? I am not quite sure how I feel about this, but I am not here to judge or tell you you have to wear skirts. I am simply explaining why we personally wear skirts.

I felt that God was really impressing on my heart a conviction to wears skirts. I was never much of a skirts or dress person my entire life, so this was weird to me. But, God just kept bringing my heart back to it. So I prayed on it and then prayed some more. I didnt talk to anybody about how i was feeling about this in fear about how they would react to it. I thought they would think I was crazy and say stuff like, " I knew it! she has finally gone over the edge this time!" Then one day I was praying and I heard Him, " Jennifer, it doesn't matter what people think of you, it only matters what I think of you." So I sat down with my husband and told him everything that was on my heart, I told him that God had impressed in my heart a conviction to embrace my femininity. My husband thought it was a wonderful thing. So all that worrying for nothing. I should have just trusted The Lord.

We have four children, three boys and a girl. At that point our oldest boy, Bailey was fourteen, next was our son Tristan who was twelve, then our youngest son Anthony Jr, he was nine, and lastly our only girl Lilaina who was eight. I had talked to my daughter about why I was wearing skirts a few times, but we wanted her to come to it on her own. We wanted to let The Lord work in her so she would know it was a conviction coming from Him and not just something she had to do because Mama was doing it. We felt that if that happened she would grow out of it but if The Lord worked in her she would have deep roots that would last.

It is our responsibility as women to be an example to our daughters. We need to stop and think about what we are projecting to them by the things we wear. God didn't accidentally make me a female, it was intentional.

Psalm 139:13-14 " For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

Jeremiah 1:5 " Before I formed you in the womb I knew you."

We are living in a culture where the gender lines are continually becoming extremely blurred. I felt I needed to be modest and embrace my femininity and I couldn't do that wearing tight jeans.

The bible tells Christian's

Romans 13:14 " Rather, clothe yourselves with The Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to glorify the desires of the flesh."

2 Corinthians 6:17 " Separate ourselves from the world..."

Romans 12:2 " Don't copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform

you into a new person by changing the way you think."

And specifically God speaks to women saying,

1Peter 3:3-4 " Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the

unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in Gods sight."

1 Timothy 2:9 " I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes."

There is another reason why I made the decision to dress modestly and that is to help protect our brothers in Christ. I found this video on the Internet about modesty and showed my husband and he thought it was spot on. We watched it with our sons and had a discussion about girls and modesty. They watched the video and said that is exactly how they felt. My oldest son Bailey said "it is hard to go anywhere as a guy because you know you are not supposed to look at a girl with lust in your heart but I feel when I go anywhere to the store or even school (we homeschool now but a couple years ago all of our children were in public school still) I am afraid to lift my head because every time I do there is a girl wearing a low cut shirt that is showing her bra and more or wearing low rise jeans showing her underwear. They all said they wished girls didn't dress like that. We know that God created men to be visual creatures and I'm not saying they are not responsible for their own actions but I don't want to contribute to it. Many of us women and girls wear stuff that could possible make are brothers in Christ stumble. I don't want to encourage them to fall. Wearing modest skirts instead of tight jeans that shows every curve and leaves nothing to the imagination helps our Christian brothers enjoy our character without temptation to sin.

Here is the modest video that we watched.

Wearing skirts has also taught me to be more submissive, don't get me wrong I have a long way to go just ask my husband. But wearing skirts reminds me that I am a women and my husband is the leader of our home. I only dress to please The Lord and my husband. My husband loves me in skirts and he feels more respected because of it.

I am not saying that it is mandatory that every women has to wear skirts that is not my intention here, I am simply stating the reasons why we wear skirts. If you feel God pulling at your heart in a certain way I encourage you to pray and ask Him where he wants you and let Him decide if its right for you.

He will always guide your heart where he wants you to be.